Christ Centered Character Training Day 4: Fear!


My eyes blearily blink open.  I squint at the clock.  It is all of 4:30 in the morning.  What woke me up?  It takes a moment for the fog to lift before I realize that we have a visitor.  I assume it might be our 3 year old daughter, but then again, she never comes down on her own.  She just stays in her bed screaming her fool head off until we wake up and come see what the commotion is all about (usually she just can’t find her blanket that slipped down).  Nope, it has to be one of the boys.  Sure enough, it is Noah! My oldest son who is all of 8 years old.  It isn’t really like him to make a middle of the night appearance so I know something is up.  The first words out of my mother are…. “Are you going to be sick?”  Can you tell our family has had more than our fair share of after dark attacks by stomach bugs?  No, he tells me meekly.  Then he curls up in bed beside me.

As much as I am truly irritated by the interrupted sleep I wrap my arms around him and rub his back. I say a prayer asking for guidance because my gut tells me there is indeed something up with this guy.  After a few moments in a small whiney voice he begins to tell me me he is afraid.  Afraid of what I ask him.  His answer…. A Fire!  My heart shatters into a million pieces.  I realize that this fear has been at least partially spurred on by one of my own biggest fears!  My fear of fire comes with reason and I’ve had to witness the destruction in my own home more than a couple times in my life.

I knew where this was coming from.  We had recently installed new smoke detectors throughout our home and I had reviewed with my children exactly what they should do if ever we did have a fire.  Not two nights later, while eating dinner, their was an issue at a house just a few doors down.  As we sat and watched 3 or 4 firetrucks, police cars, and a dozen volunteer firefighters invaded our small street.  The culmination of all of these things was laying heavily on my little boy’s mind.  I couldn’t help but be empathetic as I’ve lost plenty of nights sleep worrying over the same thing.

In the wee hours of the morning I couldn’t offer much.  I offered to pray with him for God’s protection.  I reminded him that God is always with us.  Then I held him close.  After a while he traipsed back to his own bed.  In the business of life I  actually put the incident mostly out of my mind.  That is until he reappeared a few nights later in pretty much the same way.  Later that day I knew it was time to see what God had to say about fear.


After breakfast, and every day for the next few days, I snuggled with my son on the couch as we flipped through the pages of our Bible.  As we often do we read through the scripture, repeating what we read aloud, and breaking down the passages word by word.  What is God saying?  What does He want us to know?  How should we feel after reading this verse?  How can we turn this verse into our own prayer to God that we can turn to whenever we are afraid.?

Deuteronomy 31:6 hit home fast…

6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

Psalm 27:1 was another that marked our hearts…

1The Lord is my light and my salvation— whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid?
My little boy wasn’t convinced after just one day.  We went over these passages, and others, regularly for days.  I prayed with him every night.  We prayed these scripture verses and we prayed for God’s protection as we slept.  Eventually this fear was lifted from my son.  Children being children however we have found other fears in life and we return to these verses whenever need be.
As a Mommy I too have fears.  I have a fear of some catastrophic accident taking one of my children away from me.  Can I say… God’s word helps me deal with my fears too!


Many members of the TOS Review Crew are blogging about a variety of topics this week.  Please stop by their blogs.  They’ve chosen some fabulous topics to write about for you.
Brittney @ Mom’s Heart ~ Relaxed Homeschooling
Lisa @ A Rup Life ~ Our Favorite Books
Melissa @ Life Off the Paved Road ~ Fit From Home
Michelle @ Faith, Family, and Fridays ~ Clearing Out the Clutter
Jennifer @ Chestnut Grove Academy ~ Educational Apps
Jenni @ Conversaving ~ Homeschool Cooperatives
Lisa @ Home to 4 Kiddos ~ Celebrating Lent
Tawnee @ Adventures in Homeschooling ~ Spring Schooling

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  1. Another great post! I too struggle with what I call ‘normal mommy fears’ – usually something happening to one of my children. I love how you handled the fears with your son. We typically pray and send back to bed at this point. (11 & 13) I like the reminder to show scripture the next day!

  2. I think we all have those mommy fears! I love your approach to handling fear with little ones.

  3. Another great post! We can always find answers in God’s Word.

  4. We have dealt with fear in our house with every child at some point. I used paint pens and wrote those verses and a few others on a pillowcase and the child having problems has slept with it for a while as a reminder of how much God loves them!
    Great post- great series! Thank you!

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