Hands Free Revolution? A Guide to Putting Down the Phone, Burning the To-Do List, and Letting Go of Perfection to Grasp What Really Matters!

Can I share with you something I don’t like about raising children?  It goes by too fast.  Now I’m not being all pollyanna and pretending like raising for babies is all rainbows and lollipops!  My goodness are some days hard and yes I do sigh with great big RELIEF when my children all settle into bed at night.  Finally, some quiet time!  But goodness my oldest is about to turn nine! Half his time as my “child” is pretty much over.  His days as a little kid playing in the backyard, pretending to be whatever his imagination is taking him today, that’s way more than half over.  We are probably not too far away from being too cool for that.

It is going by WAY TOO STINKING FAST!  Can’t I just slow it down and drink it all so I don’t forget a thing?  I want to remember how my boys smell because that little boy smell and dirt and play is special.  Before I know it it’ll be more like stinking body odor!  My four year old daughter is lost in princesses and baby dolls.  She loves to dress up!  My baby is still very much a baby but when I look at the older three I know… my days gazing into her beautiful eyes as she nurses away in my arms are so limited.  It all makes me ache!

What do I do?  It hurts to realize from the moment they are born they are really just in the process of slipping away.  If I do my job well I’ll blink and they’ll be grown, independent adults off in the world and I’ll be left with… well… I don’t even know.  I’m sure God will have a plan for me at that season of life but it still hurts my heart to realize some day I won’t be a Momma like I am now.


I recently picked up with book called Hands Free Mama! A Guide to Putting Down the Phone, Burning the To-Do List and Letting Go of Perfection to Grasp What Really Matters!  (Affiliate Link) What a title huh?  The book is convicting.  I’m realizing that I spend my days on a quest to get as much done, to get through as much stuff (blogging, homeschooling, co-op planning, ministry, homemaking… you name it!)  that I’m MISSING out on LIVING and soaking in the here and now!

I don’t want to miss my children’s childhoods!  I don’t want to rush through it!  I want to LIVE in it!  Don’t you?

Now I haven’t finished the book!  I’m going through it slowly… digesting each section and taking seriously the challenges presented in it.  I was afraid this was another book that was going to make me feel guilty for social media, blogging, etc.  It isn’t!  Yes it does deal with the issue of paying more attention to your phone than anything else… but that’s not the center of this book.  This book is actually more about opening your eyes and encouraging you to ENGAGE in the here and now!  RIGHT NOW!  And to embrace the life in front of you at this minute.

Because of this book I now see my children’s silliness as more fun than a nuisance… and I engage in it!  Now, instead of running over to-do lists in my brain while driving to and from where ever I sing songs with my kiddos and engage them in fun conversation.  Now, instead of watching my kiddos play from the sidelines, I try and jump in… at least sometimes!

I’m feeling more connected to my children than ever!  I’m feeling more at peace and less frazzled than before.  I’m noticing more smiles and laughter too — come from me!

I’m toying with the idea of starting a series on this book and my experiences.  Stay tuned!


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