Motivate Your Child Action Plan Giveaway — win an iPod Touch, $50 iTunes GC and #HeartParenting Books!

If you follow my blog then you know that I am a tremendous fan of the National Center for Biblical Parenting (NCBP) and their Heart Parenting Concept.  You can read my reviews of The Christian Parenting Handbook and Motivate Your Child.  Both of these books changed my parenting tremendously.

NCBP is releasing a companion book to the Motivate Your Child called Motivate Your Child Action Plan.

Motivate Your Child Action Plan Giveaway

To celebrate the release of Motivate Your Child Action Plan, we are joining other members of the Launch Team in a wonderful giveaway filled with an iPod Touch, $50 iTunes Gift Card and several biblical parenting products! A value of nearly $350!

Here’s what you could win:

Apple iPod touch 16GB Black/Silver  ($195 value)

  • In the Box – iPod Touch, Apple EarPods, Lightning to USB cable, QuickStart guide
  • Brilliant 4 Retina display with Multi-Touch IPS technology
  • Front-Facing FaceTime camera with 1.2MP photos & 720p HD video recording.
  • iOS 6 features – Siri, Apple Designed Maps, Integrated Facebook, Shared Photo Streams, Passbook & more

iTunes Gift Card ($50 value)

Because you’ll need apps and music for that iPod Touch!

The Christian Parenting Handbook and Companion Guide ($56.95 value)

The Christian Parenting Handbook contains nuggets of parenting wisdom condensed into 50 short chapters, each one biblical, practical, and relevant for parents of children ages 2-18. Learn appropriate ways to correct, instruct, and set limits. Glean wisdom for dealing with emotions, conflict, and developing closeness in your family… and much more. These 50 strategies provide you with hands-on tools for parenting children of any age.

The Companion Guide is a workbook of 50 lessons along with 50 audio tips to take you through The Christian Parenting Handbook step by step. Each lesson contains advice from Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller in a 5 minute audio tip and then offers teaching, an assignment, a Bible verse, and a prayer to help you apply each idea or strategy in your family. The tips are available to you as MP3 downloads and access to them comes in the workbook.

Family Time Activities Book Bundle ($45 value)

Your kids will have fun learning about God’s Word and how it applies to their lives. Science experiments, art activities, and games are all designed to reinforce spiritual truth. Each lesson is clear and simple, yet profound even for parents! You’ll teach kids how exciting it is to learn about God and his ways. Your kids will love these books, but more importantly you’ll build spiritual memories of Family Time in your home. Titles in this giveaway include:

Seeing Is Believing 

Playing for Keeps 

Running the Race

Enter the Giveaway using the Rafflecopter below! This giveaway is open INTERNATIONALLY to those 18 years of age or older. Void where prohibited by law.

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Join us for the Action Plan Facebook Party on Wednesday, May 20 at 9:00PM ET. There will be even more prizes and giveaways there and the authors of Action Plan will be present to answer your questions! The winner of this giveaway will be announced at the Facebook party!

RSVP here for the Party!

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Book Review: Motivate Your Child

1459765_836337089761828_3900440202352696878_n (1)This month I have had my nose buried deep in a fantastic new book from Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller.  I’ve already shared with you some of my thoughts about it here and other places.  It’s just the right book to come along at just the right time. It is called Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told.

If it were up to me every single family would be presented with three things at the birth of their first child… a Bible, The Christian Parenting handbook also by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, and THIS book. These books have helped my family just that much.

As parents we spend an incredible amount of our energy getting our children to do what needs to be done and trying to guide them towards become self-motivated, moral, and Godly people. Except learning to how, as a parent, to do this with our children isn’t something we can learn from a textbook.  It is something we learn from the Word of God – the Bible.

This book addresses basic every day life and teaches us how to attach our children’s hearts to God’s Word.  In the pages is help with our days.  Like the morning routine just to get the day started and perhaps out the door straight through to the bedtime routine to end the day.  In between falls homework, chores, preperations for getting to appointments and extra-curricular activities. If you homeschool like we do than there is all of that learning and schoolwork that we have to make sure happens too.  It is never ending.

This book teaches us how to instill great character and a fine ethic in our children along the way.  It’s our responsibility to teach our children to kind, generous, and helpful among other things not because we’ve told them to be but because their internal conscience motivates them.

Anyone else exhausted just by thinking about it we are trying to do as parents? I sure am.  Sometimes it can be maddening can’t it?  We find ourselves having to tell our children repeatedly, daily, 100 times a day what it is they are supposed to do.  My children know that to get to karate for example (something we do 2-3 times a week and have done for 5 years) that they have to have their uniform, bag, shoes, coat, staff etc. etc.  They know what time we leave yet somehow I am always hollering up the stairs to their rooms… don’t forget your bag!  Where is your staff?  We leave at 5:00 why aren’t you in your uniform yet (despite having prompted them forever ago to start getting ready)!  Then someone can’t find something and we are all in a tizzy. Despite all of my promises and vows not to yell the loud Momma voice rears it’s ugly head. By the time I take my seat in the drivers seat I’m ready to rip my hair out sometimes.

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I’m going to go out on a limb and guess I’m not the only Mom in the world with kiddos that do this sort of thing.  So how can we stop the madness?  This is where Motivate Your Child comes into play. It teaches us parents how to end the nagging and repair relationships that might be suffering because of it.  We are reminded that parenting is really a long process where we are preparing our children for life by providing them with the tools they need to be self-motivated and people of Godly character.

This book isn’t just full of theory and discussion, it is brimming with real life examples that leave you nodding your head shouting inside… THAT HAPPENS TO US TOO! Followed by not only practical and doable tips and techniques to make real changes AND references to the Bible to remind us why we are teaching and guiding our children.  If you are a family that strives to use God’s word when making parenting decisions and you are interested in what Godly Christian family and parenting experts have learned in their research and their own study of the Bible than this book is absolutely for you.  There is so much to learn about Biblical parenting just by reading all about how Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller teach and guide real families in their ministry.

This quote from the book has lingered with me for a long time…

A parent’s words are important in a child’s life. They linger in the heart and become food for the conscience.

How many times as you’ve grown into an adult have you heard the often repeated phrases your parents used?  My mother had this habit of telling … “NOW!”  I can hear her voice with that word clear as a bell.  In fact when I say it to my own children I can flash right back to being  a kid myself!  Or… “Just do your best! Your best is good enough.”  She said that to me so often that to this day every time I tackle anything difficult I can hear her saying that to me in my mind.

It is true.  The things we tend to say to our children they will carry with them forever.  Our voices will turn into their internal voices and guide long after we are no longer around to help through their days.  I want to use this to my advantage.  If I use positive, encouraging, and motivating words now God willing when they are adults they’ll continue to say those things to themselves and make wise choices.

My favorite example from the books is…. “Brother’s Love Each Other.”  This is near the beginning.  I have four children and it is my prayer that they always remain close to another.  That they are steadfast friends that love on one another in the hard times, celebrate together in the good times, and help each other whenever possible.  I know friends who don’t get along with their siblings at all.  This is tragic in my opinion.  So, as the book suggests, whenever I catch them fighting I now say… Brothers and Sisters love each other so let’s make this right.  And when I see them loving each other and getting along I say… See brothers and sisters love each other and you guys are doing a great job with that right now.  My prayer is when they are all grown and some conflict comes up they’ll remember that brothers and sisters love each other and they’ll do what they have to to make it right.

Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller spend a good deal of time discussing how the conscience develops and they offer practicle ways to positively coach your children towards using it in a positive way.  They dive into handling correction and they teach parents how to use correction as a positive opportunity for guidance. There are even fabulous chapters on spirtual development in children and family fun in connecting with scripture.

There are too many worthwhile things to list. It is simply a goldmine. I can’t fit everything in this space.  This is the kind of book you’ll want to reread as you gain more insights with each pass through and some things that seem to not to pertain to your family in the moment will likely come up at a later time.

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When a Book Review Comes Along at Just the Right Time – Motivate Your Child

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I’ve been given the awesome opportunity to review another Heart Parenting book by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN.  You might remember their Christian Parenting Handbook that I reviewed earlier. The Heart Parenting concept taught in the first book changed my parenting and our home so much that I couldn’t wait to get my hands on another book by these authors.

The new book, being released later this month, is titled Motivate Your Child. Can I just say that I have been STRUGGLING with this for a while and just last week things sort of came to a head around here. My children are children and as pretty much all children do (and many adults as well), they shirk responsibilities as much as possible.

In fact I have given each of my children new nicknames because whenever I look to see if responsibilities (chores, school work, etc.) have been completed my oldest will likely tell me “I forgot!” My second son will claim “You didn’t tell me!” And my oldest daughter will claim “I can’t do it!”

This has been driving me MAD! Completely and utterly mad! Their effort in most things is mediocre at best. Everything takes FOREVER to get done and it is all done with much moaning and complaining. I’ve had to become a micromanaging task master just to get us through our day. It is exhausting and it isn’t doing a darn thing positive for our relationships. It is even putting something of a dark cloud over my marriage as my husband is coming home to a stressed out and grumpy wife nearly every day.

I believe in God who knows just what I need before I even do. Amazingly just this weekend and advance pdf copy of Motivate Your Child landed in my email box. Talk about answer to prayer. I’ve only just begun implementing some of their strategies.

Here is one of the first quotes that really struck me….

When parents choose their words carefully,
they’re contributing to the right kind of meditation for their children.

What this means is, right now I’m acting as my children’s conscience.  I tell them everything.  They don’t need to remember and honestly they don’t feel they need to do what I ask until I get agitated with them.  This is not how I want things to go and I’m sure they don’t either.

I made a plan to make things better. I came up with something of a script for myself (and my husband) to use repeatedly throughout the day.  Word cues I could give to my children to get them thinking about what they are doing.

For us some of these scripts include… Are you distracted or focus? Are you being diligent or absent minded? Are you being careful or careless?  Are you being caring or disrespectful?

Let me show you how this is working for us now.  My boys are responsible for sweeping our kitchen every day.  Many days they distract themselves by turning the brooms into swords to play fight with and in the end they do a terrible job.  Mommy gets aggravated and I start in with them… “Stop playing around! Get the job done! Look you missed this whole side!  What are you doing? I’m waiting on you to get other stuff done!”  Then they have to redo it.  Time and again.  What a waste of time and energy.

Now when I see them going down the wrong path I just have to say… “Are you being distracted or focused?”  That’s their cue to check themselves and start working the way they should.  No more Mommy badgering them and nagging.  After about a week I’ve actually over heard one say to the other… “Come on! We are being distracted! Let’s get focused!”  MUSIC TO THIS MOMMA’S EARS!  The words I’m using are more positive AND they are starting to use them on themselves.  GOLD MINE!

I’m looking forward to the next chapters! 1922283_841097825952421_4329519294050087241_n

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