Motivate Your Child Action Plan Giveaway — win an iPod Touch, $50 iTunes GC and #HeartParenting Books!

If you follow my blog then you know that I am a tremendous fan of the National Center for Biblical Parenting (NCBP) and their Heart Parenting Concept.  You can read my reviews of The Christian Parenting Handbook and Motivate Your Child.  Both of these books changed my parenting tremendously.

NCBP is releasing a companion book to the Motivate Your Child called Motivate Your Child Action Plan.

Motivate Your Child Action Plan Giveaway

To celebrate the release of Motivate Your Child Action Plan, we are joining other members of the Launch Team in a wonderful giveaway filled with an iPod Touch, $50 iTunes Gift Card and several biblical parenting products! A value of nearly $350!

Here’s what you could win:

Apple iPod touch 16GB Black/Silver  ($195 value)

  • In the Box – iPod Touch, Apple EarPods, Lightning to USB cable, QuickStart guide
  • Brilliant 4 Retina display with Multi-Touch IPS technology
  • Front-Facing FaceTime camera with 1.2MP photos & 720p HD video recording.
  • iOS 6 features – Siri, Apple Designed Maps, Integrated Facebook, Shared Photo Streams, Passbook & more

iTunes Gift Card ($50 value)

Because you’ll need apps and music for that iPod Touch!

The Christian Parenting Handbook and Companion Guide ($56.95 value)

The Christian Parenting Handbook contains nuggets of parenting wisdom condensed into 50 short chapters, each one biblical, practical, and relevant for parents of children ages 2-18. Learn appropriate ways to correct, instruct, and set limits. Glean wisdom for dealing with emotions, conflict, and developing closeness in your family… and much more. These 50 strategies provide you with hands-on tools for parenting children of any age.

The Companion Guide is a workbook of 50 lessons along with 50 audio tips to take you through The Christian Parenting Handbook step by step. Each lesson contains advice from Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller in a 5 minute audio tip and then offers teaching, an assignment, a Bible verse, and a prayer to help you apply each idea or strategy in your family. The tips are available to you as MP3 downloads and access to them comes in the workbook.

Family Time Activities Book Bundle ($45 value)

Your kids will have fun learning about God’s Word and how it applies to their lives. Science experiments, art activities, and games are all designed to reinforce spiritual truth. Each lesson is clear and simple, yet profound even for parents! You’ll teach kids how exciting it is to learn about God and his ways. Your kids will love these books, but more importantly you’ll build spiritual memories of Family Time in your home. Titles in this giveaway include:

Seeing Is Believing 

Playing for Keeps 

Running the Race

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Join us for the Action Plan Facebook Party on Wednesday, May 20 at 9:00PM ET. There will be even more prizes and giveaways there and the authors of Action Plan will be present to answer your questions! The winner of this giveaway will be announced at the Facebook party!

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Book Review: Motivate Your Child

1459765_836337089761828_3900440202352696878_n (1)This month I have had my nose buried deep in a fantastic new book from Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller.  I’ve already shared with you some of my thoughts about it here and other places.  It’s just the right book to come along at just the right time. It is called Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told.

If it were up to me every single family would be presented with three things at the birth of their first child… a Bible, The Christian Parenting handbook also by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, and THIS book. These books have helped my family just that much.

As parents we spend an incredible amount of our energy getting our children to do what needs to be done and trying to guide them towards become self-motivated, moral, and Godly people. Except learning to how, as a parent, to do this with our children isn’t something we can learn from a textbook.  It is something we learn from the Word of God – the Bible.

This book addresses basic every day life and teaches us how to attach our children’s hearts to God’s Word.  In the pages is help with our days.  Like the morning routine just to get the day started and perhaps out the door straight through to the bedtime routine to end the day.  In between falls homework, chores, preperations for getting to appointments and extra-curricular activities. If you homeschool like we do than there is all of that learning and schoolwork that we have to make sure happens too.  It is never ending.

This book teaches us how to instill great character and a fine ethic in our children along the way.  It’s our responsibility to teach our children to kind, generous, and helpful among other things not because we’ve told them to be but because their internal conscience motivates them.

Anyone else exhausted just by thinking about it we are trying to do as parents? I sure am.  Sometimes it can be maddening can’t it?  We find ourselves having to tell our children repeatedly, daily, 100 times a day what it is they are supposed to do.  My children know that to get to karate for example (something we do 2-3 times a week and have done for 5 years) that they have to have their uniform, bag, shoes, coat, staff etc. etc.  They know what time we leave yet somehow I am always hollering up the stairs to their rooms… don’t forget your bag!  Where is your staff?  We leave at 5:00 why aren’t you in your uniform yet (despite having prompted them forever ago to start getting ready)!  Then someone can’t find something and we are all in a tizzy. Despite all of my promises and vows not to yell the loud Momma voice rears it’s ugly head. By the time I take my seat in the drivers seat I’m ready to rip my hair out sometimes.

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I’m going to go out on a limb and guess I’m not the only Mom in the world with kiddos that do this sort of thing.  So how can we stop the madness?  This is where Motivate Your Child comes into play. It teaches us parents how to end the nagging and repair relationships that might be suffering because of it.  We are reminded that parenting is really a long process where we are preparing our children for life by providing them with the tools they need to be self-motivated and people of Godly character.

This book isn’t just full of theory and discussion, it is brimming with real life examples that leave you nodding your head shouting inside… THAT HAPPENS TO US TOO! Followed by not only practical and doable tips and techniques to make real changes AND references to the Bible to remind us why we are teaching and guiding our children.  If you are a family that strives to use God’s word when making parenting decisions and you are interested in what Godly Christian family and parenting experts have learned in their research and their own study of the Bible than this book is absolutely for you.  There is so much to learn about Biblical parenting just by reading all about how Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller teach and guide real families in their ministry.

This quote from the book has lingered with me for a long time…

A parent’s words are important in a child’s life. They linger in the heart and become food for the conscience.

How many times as you’ve grown into an adult have you heard the often repeated phrases your parents used?  My mother had this habit of telling … “NOW!”  I can hear her voice with that word clear as a bell.  In fact when I say it to my own children I can flash right back to being  a kid myself!  Or… “Just do your best! Your best is good enough.”  She said that to me so often that to this day every time I tackle anything difficult I can hear her saying that to me in my mind.

It is true.  The things we tend to say to our children they will carry with them forever.  Our voices will turn into their internal voices and guide long after we are no longer around to help through their days.  I want to use this to my advantage.  If I use positive, encouraging, and motivating words now God willing when they are adults they’ll continue to say those things to themselves and make wise choices.

My favorite example from the books is…. “Brother’s Love Each Other.”  This is near the beginning.  I have four children and it is my prayer that they always remain close to another.  That they are steadfast friends that love on one another in the hard times, celebrate together in the good times, and help each other whenever possible.  I know friends who don’t get along with their siblings at all.  This is tragic in my opinion.  So, as the book suggests, whenever I catch them fighting I now say… Brothers and Sisters love each other so let’s make this right.  And when I see them loving each other and getting along I say… See brothers and sisters love each other and you guys are doing a great job with that right now.  My prayer is when they are all grown and some conflict comes up they’ll remember that brothers and sisters love each other and they’ll do what they have to to make it right.

Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller spend a good deal of time discussing how the conscience develops and they offer practicle ways to positively coach your children towards using it in a positive way.  They dive into handling correction and they teach parents how to use correction as a positive opportunity for guidance. There are even fabulous chapters on spirtual development in children and family fun in connecting with scripture.

There are too many worthwhile things to list. It is simply a goldmine. I can’t fit everything in this space.  This is the kind of book you’ll want to reread as you gain more insights with each pass through and some things that seem to not to pertain to your family in the moment will likely come up at a later time.

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Motivate Your Child Giveaway!

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Lately I’ve been sharing little bits about a book I’m reviewing called Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told.  I previously read another book by the same authors called The Christian Parenting Handbook. That book has a huge positive impact on my parenting and our family life in general.  Of course I was eager to read another related book.

Both books come at the idea that the best way to have a positive impact on short term behavior and long term character is through heart parenting.  Heart parenting is essentially impact a child’s heart, feelings, inner ideas through actions, consequences, and role modeling.

I loved The Christian Parenting Handbook and so far I love Motivate Your Child just as much.  Of course a full review is coming but in the meantime! Let’s have some fun!

To celebrate the release of Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told,  members of the Launch Team are sharing a wonderful giveaway filled with a Go Pro Camera, $50 Mardel Gift Card, $25 Amazon Gift Card, and book bundles from both the National Center for Biblical Parenting and Thomas Nelson Publishing! Three winners will win prizes with a total value of nearly $800!

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Here’s what you could win:

GRAND PRIZE  ($500+ value)

Go Pro HERO3+ Silver Camera ($300 value)

HERO3+ Silver captures gorgeous, professional-quality 1080p60 video and 10MP photos at speeds of up to 10 frames per second. Built-in Wi-Fi enables you to use the GoPro App to control the camera remotely, preview shots and share your favorites on Facebook, Twitter and more. Compatible with all GoPro mounts, you can wear it or attach it to your gear for immersive POV footage of your favorite activities. It’s waterproof to 131’ (40m) and built tough for all of life’s adventures. Combined with stunning low-light performance, high-performance audio and an ultra wide-angle glass lens, HERO3+ Silver makes capturing and sharing your life easier than ever.

NCBP Book Bundle ($115 value)

The Christian Parenting Handbook  and Companion Guide

Parenting is Heart Work

God’s Awesome Story

Hero Training Camp Children’s Curriculum

Thomas Nelson Book Bundle ($90 value):

The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst  Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson

Say Goodbye to Survival Mode by Crystal Paine

All Pro Dad by Mark Merrill

The Passionate Mom by Susan Merrill

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FIRST PRIZE ($165 value)

$50 Mardel Gift Card

NCBP Book Bundle ($115 value)

The Christian Parenting Handbook  and Companion Guide

Parenting is Heart Work

God’s Awesome Story

Hero Training Camp Children’s Curriculum

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SECOND PRIZE ($115 value)

$25 Amazon Gift Card

Thomas Nelson Book Bundle ($90 value):

The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst  Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson

Say Goodbye to Survival Mode by Crystal Paine

All Pro Dad by Mark Merrill

The Passionate Mom by Susan Merrill

To enter, use the Rafflecopter below. Giveaway dates: January 12, 2015 @12:00am ET through January 28, 2015 @ 11:59pm ET

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Motivate Your Child Book PreOrder special — $150 in parenting resources FREE!

I am excited to share with you about a new book I’m reading this month — Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told. Doesn’t that sound amazing? Isn’t that what you want for your kids?  I have to tell you that I’ve only just begun to dig into this and it is leading me to make changes in my home already!

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God’s Word gives us a better way to parent, one that builds strong internal motivation in children. When parents change the way they parent, kids change the way they live. Motivate Your Child is a practical book that explores a theology of internal motivation and then gives parents real-life solutions to equip their kids for life.

This is the newest book by parenting experts, Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN from the National Center for Biblical Parenting (NCBP), also authors of The Christian Parenting Handbook.

In order to motivate parents to Pre-Order the book, the NCBP is offering a $150 package of resources for FREE! There are video, audio and print items that can be used on a variety of devices. You can learn more on the Book Website.

You can Pre-Order the book now from any retailer, and then follow the instructions below.

Pre order from Amazon!  INSTRUCTIONS: Purchase the book. Email the receipt to gift@biblicalparenting.org. The NCBP will send you the link and a special code to access these downloadable products. This offer is good until January 31, 2015.

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Curbing My Daughter’s Tantrums

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You cannot change others others,

you can only change yourself!

Have you ever heard that quote? Or some variation of it?  I haven’t a clue where it came from but I’ve found it to be very true.  My four year old daughter has been going through a thing lately.  She drops into tantrums with the drop of a hat.  She’s been terribly disobedient and awfully fresh.  We battle to get her to do anything at all for herself.  Dinner time has been regulated to an all out war! Perhaps we could blame this on the arrival of her baby sister?  Maybe not because I remember her brothers going through this at exactly the same age.  Whatever the cause it is something that has to be dealt with.

So how have I been dealing with it?  Each time she refuses to do what we ask or drops herself into a tantrum we would scoop her and drop her in her bed.  This didn’t end the tantrums.  NOT. AT. ALL!  In fact it escalated things.  BIG TIME!  Can you hear me sighing over here?  A bad tantrum would turn into blood curdling SCREAMING FITS complete with her banging her door like she meant to break it down.  By this point she’d be completely unable to hear me even when I did my best to calmly bring her down.  Then of course I would get even more riled up myself so I’d break into yelling.  Nope, that didn’t help either.  I’d have to wait her out.  I’ve been exasperate with her!  How come she does not respond to reasonable punishment!

As I sat outside her door developing my own throbbing headache that beat in time to the pounding she was inflicting on the door it hit me… the quote above… like a ton of bricks!  What I was doing clearly wasn’t working.  I couldn’t change her so I had to change me.

That tantrum finally ended and I vowed to rein in my emotions and do things differently next time.  My plan of action… distract, ignore if need be, and pour on the praise.  When I saw a spout of disobedience coming, instead of warning her she’d have to go to her room if she didn’t do as she was told I tried to make a game of things.  “Oh, I wonder if you could finish your dinner before I do!”  If she wanted something she couldn’t have I thought of something else that she COULD have that’d be delightful to her… distraction.  If these ideas were successful then I’d dance around the house singing her praises for a job well done.  SHE BEAMS when I do that.  If my tactics failed then I just completely ignored her tantrum.  I now do everything I can to avoid escalating it further.

I can’t control her.  I can’t MAKE her obey.  I can’t DEMAND she turn off a tantrum like a switch.  But I can change how I respond to her.  SO far so good… she is going with the flow far better, she is becoming independent again, and her tantrums are shorter and fewer in number.

My new mantra… I can only control myself!

Review: We Choose Virtues Parenting Cards

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One of our greatest priorities in our family is using scripture to teach our children Godly character and virtues.  When we were given the opportunity to review the Parenting Cards by We Choose Virtues we were absolutely thrilled.  All tools to make discipling and parenting easier are very welcome! Also, to add to our Parenting Card program, as part of this review we received some fantastic downloadable files  including:

  • Teacher’s Handbook
  • Family Character Assessment
  • Coloring Pages
  • Butterfly Award
  • Sing-along-Song sheets

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We Choose Virtues is great little company that offers products not only for homeschoolers, but for churches, schools or any place you find kids that need a little help learning great virtues and character.

The Parenting Cards that we received are meant for use by parents at home.  They come in two versions, King James which were originally created for Jewish families so they contain only verses from the Old Testament, and New International Readers Version which contains scripture from from both the Old and New Testaments.

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Which ever set of cards you choose for your family, they each teach same list of virtues:

  • diligence
  • helpfulness
  • perseverance
  • gentleness
  • contentment
  • attentiveness
  • honesty
  • kindness
  • self-control
  • patience
  • obedience
  • forgiveness

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These cards were a lot of fun.  I had intended to use just one a week, revisiting it every day during our usual time together when we worship and have devotional and Bible study.  The content is quick and easy to read so my children often asked me to read a few at a time.  I was happy to oblige.  Each card contains an inspirational store, a virtue user challenge, clues for how to apologize, and teaching ideas for bringing the concepts to life.

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These cards are meant for 3-18 year olds.  I’d say they are are meant for any age.  This Mommy sometimes wondered if God was working on my heart even more than He was working on my children. For example, one of the very first cards we worked through was on patience.  The Virtue User Challenge that day asked the entire family to try and go the whole day and not rush, or push anyone.  Let me tell you… my children have NO trouble meeting this challenge. They NEVER rush.. at anything!  This was a challenge aimed directly at mommy.  I’m the only ALWAYS trying to rush everyone along to the next day.  Boy was this a long day… and week for that matter!  But I learned from it and the experience has relaxed me.  I’m learning to make more time for things so I’m not so inclined to rush everyone around.

Like I said, we read these daily…usually two or three of them.  At the beginning of each week we’d choose one to really focus on.  We would spend time repeating the neat catch phrase found on the front of the card.  For Patience the phrase was “I wait, and wait, and wait with a smile. I am NOT… pushy, or controlling and I don’t get frustrated or bored when others are slow!”  Mommy repeated this one to myself… A LOT!  We’d also use the scripture as part of our copy work and we aimed to memorize it by the week’s end.  The card of the week was placed on our refrigerator so we’d remember to review often.  Usually over meals.

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We certainly reviewed some cards more often than others.  I was often strategic in choosing cards that seemed like they’d help us with some heart issues in the house.  We absolutely loved the catch phrases.  If a child (or Mommy) was struggling with a certain issue, it was so easy to just repeat the catch phrase as a reminder for what kind of behavior was expected.  These catch phrases are now a part of our everyday language and help me diffuse lots of situations with ease.

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The coloring book is adorable.  The children enjoyed using it to keep their hands busy when we discussed the cards and other related material.  It includes some word games and the characters we see on the front of the cards.  Most of the pages display a virtue boldly.  I liked to take the kids colorings for the virtue for the week and display them where we’d see them often.  The teacher manual had some great tips to get me started, but since teaching virtues and character is such an ingrained part of our every day I found I didn’t need to refer to it often.  Plus these cards are so simple to teach from.  They are just fun, brightly colored, and packed full in such a small space that all of our discussions came together with ease.

The family character assessment asks you to rate each child on a scale of 1-10 in each of the virtue areas.  It is to be done regularly such as monthly.  While I didn’t feel like choosing a number fit our family style I did use the document as a prompt to help me start a discussion with each of my children about how they felt they were doing with each area.  They all agreed there were areas to improve upon.

The Sing Along download was actually a lot of fun.  There was one song per virtue.  The lyrics were set to familiar tunes such as “BINGO” or “She’ll Be Coming Around the Mountain.”  At first my kids thought I was crazying trying to sing… I am a truth teller, a truth teller, a truth teller to the tune of “The More We Get Together” but they came around and they sing with me now.

Also included in the download is an award you can give out to your children if they consistently show a virtue.  I haven’t given one just yet.  I’m still trying to decide on my standard for when they should be awarded.

The Parenting Cards are $38.49 and the Downloadable Bundle is $7.99. From now until August you can use the coupon code BTS20 on anything in the We Choose Virtues store.

You can follow We Choose Virtues on their social media sites as well… Facebook – 
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Monday Morning Mothering Encouragement…Worldly Success!

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Will there ever be a greater blessing in this world than they days when my children have grown and gone off to live lives that are faithful to Christ and their calling?  I can admit that one of my biggest fears is that this somehow won’t come true!  That I will spend all of these years homeschooling, pouring myself into my children, faithfully pointing them to Christ… only to have them walk away from our faith.

Yet, the crazy thing is that at the same time there is this never ending pull to raise children that are significant to the world!  I’m just as guilty of any other of wanting my children to find success as the world defines it (not that I really know exactly how the world DOES define success… it seems to be a moving target).  It is SO tempting to define my worth as a mother based on my children’s achievements.

Sometimes I try to tell myself this can be balanced!  We can be faithful to Christ why still succeeding in academics, or sports, or whatever.  Deep down inside I know I am kidding myself.  As Proverbs 22:6 reminds me…

13“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.”

Truly I know that there are no guarantees.  My role is to remain faithful to my calling.  The rest is in God’s hands.  So whether my children end up with lives that are successful in the world’s eyes or not.  I will rest my identity in Christ and not in worldly validation.

 

Christ Centered Character Training Day 5: God’s Word is the Key to My Life

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I’ve struggled with how to close up this blog series.  It’s been a subject of prayer for me for several weeks.  I had originally intended to share with you another character trait that my family has attempted to address using God’s own word.  With our Child Training Bible and other resources we’ve addressed everything from defiance and disobedience through not listening to selfishness and more.  I can honestly say that my family always sees an improvement in character and behavior each time we tackle a new subject.  Does it always last?  Does it stick as they say?  Not perfectly.  Rarely does behavior go back to level it was but it does go backwards, sometimes quite a bit.  This is a cyclical process for us.  We must revisit old topics regularly.  There are occassions when we seem to go so far back that I find myself convinced that all of my attempts to shape my children’s character was for nothing.  I feel incapable.  I want to give up, yell and scream, and punish everyone.  I feel so incompetent… so ignorant… so unable to fulfill my calling as their mother.

Let me tell you this…. I can strive to be the most amazing, God centered, mother the world has ever seen.  Or I can fail miserably, as I do at times.  However…. God is not reliant on my ability and expertise to bring about his results.

Exodus 4:10-12 reminds us how God used an everyday man, one who sinned just as we all do, to lead a whole nation…

10 Moses said to the Lord, “Pardon your servant, Lord. I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue.”
11The Lord said to him, “Who gave human beings their mouths? Who makes them deaf or mute? Who gives them sight or makes them blind? Is it not I, the Lord? 12 Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.”
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I worry about my children’s character.  I long to shape their behavior in a way that makes them joyful and a blessing to everyone! I envision them as Godly adults serving the Lord in all areas of their lives. I’ll my best to make this happen in whatever way God leads me.  But I’ll say it again… God is not reliant on my ability and expertise to bring about his results.
I do believe this truth to be true… God’s Word is the Key to My Life.
Many members of the TOS Review Crew are blogging about a variety of topics this week.  Please stop by their blogs.  They’ve chosen some fabulous topics to write about for you.
Brittney @ Mom’s Heart ~ Relaxed Homeschooling
Lisa @ A Rup Life ~ Our Favorite Books
Melissa @ Life Off the Paved Road ~ Fit From Home
Michelle @ Faith, Family, and Fridays ~ Clearing Out the Clutter
Jennifer @ Chestnut Grove Academy ~ Educational Apps
Jenni @ Conversaving ~ Homeschool Cooperatives
Lisa @ Home to 4 Kiddos ~ Celebrating Lent
Tawnee @ Adventures in Homeschooling ~ Spring Schooling

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Christ Centered Character Training Day 4: Fear!

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My eyes blearily blink open.  I squint at the clock.  It is all of 4:30 in the morning.  What woke me up?  It takes a moment for the fog to lift before I realize that we have a visitor.  I assume it might be our 3 year old daughter, but then again, she never comes down on her own.  She just stays in her bed screaming her fool head off until we wake up and come see what the commotion is all about (usually she just can’t find her blanket that slipped down).  Nope, it has to be one of the boys.  Sure enough, it is Noah! My oldest son who is all of 8 years old.  It isn’t really like him to make a middle of the night appearance so I know something is up.  The first words out of my mother are…. “Are you going to be sick?”  Can you tell our family has had more than our fair share of after dark attacks by stomach bugs?  No, he tells me meekly.  Then he curls up in bed beside me.

As much as I am truly irritated by the interrupted sleep I wrap my arms around him and rub his back. I say a prayer asking for guidance because my gut tells me there is indeed something up with this guy.  After a few moments in a small whiney voice he begins to tell me me he is afraid.  Afraid of what I ask him.  His answer…. A Fire!  My heart shatters into a million pieces.  I realize that this fear has been at least partially spurred on by one of my own biggest fears!  My fear of fire comes with reason and I’ve had to witness the destruction in my own home more than a couple times in my life.

I knew where this was coming from.  We had recently installed new smoke detectors throughout our home and I had reviewed with my children exactly what they should do if ever we did have a fire.  Not two nights later, while eating dinner, their was an issue at a house just a few doors down.  As we sat and watched 3 or 4 firetrucks, police cars, and a dozen volunteer firefighters invaded our small street.  The culmination of all of these things was laying heavily on my little boy’s mind.  I couldn’t help but be empathetic as I’ve lost plenty of nights sleep worrying over the same thing.

In the wee hours of the morning I couldn’t offer much.  I offered to pray with him for God’s protection.  I reminded him that God is always with us.  Then I held him close.  After a while he traipsed back to his own bed.  In the business of life I  actually put the incident mostly out of my mind.  That is until he reappeared a few nights later in pretty much the same way.  Later that day I knew it was time to see what God had to say about fear.

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After breakfast, and every day for the next few days, I snuggled with my son on the couch as we flipped through the pages of our Bible.  As we often do we read through the scripture, repeating what we read aloud, and breaking down the passages word by word.  What is God saying?  What does He want us to know?  How should we feel after reading this verse?  How can we turn this verse into our own prayer to God that we can turn to whenever we are afraid.?

Deuteronomy 31:6 hit home fast…

6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

Psalm 27:1 was another that marked our hearts…

1The Lord is my light and my salvation— whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid?
My little boy wasn’t convinced after just one day.  We went over these passages, and others, regularly for days.  I prayed with him every night.  We prayed these scripture verses and we prayed for God’s protection as we slept.  Eventually this fear was lifted from my son.  Children being children however we have found other fears in life and we return to these verses whenever need be.
As a Mommy I too have fears.  I have a fear of some catastrophic accident taking one of my children away from me.  Can I say… God’s word helps me deal with my fears too!

 

Many members of the TOS Review Crew are blogging about a variety of topics this week.  Please stop by their blogs.  They’ve chosen some fabulous topics to write about for you.
Brittney @ Mom’s Heart ~ Relaxed Homeschooling
Lisa @ A Rup Life ~ Our Favorite Books
Melissa @ Life Off the Paved Road ~ Fit From Home
Michelle @ Faith, Family, and Fridays ~ Clearing Out the Clutter
Jennifer @ Chestnut Grove Academy ~ Educational Apps
Jenni @ Conversaving ~ Homeschool Cooperatives
Lisa @ Home to 4 Kiddos ~ Celebrating Lent
Tawnee @ Adventures in Homeschooling ~ Spring Schooling

April Blog Hop

Christ Centered Character Training Day 3: Complaining!

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It’s 5:30pm and we are laying dinner on the table.  My 8 year old comes over and takes one look before turning up his nose and declaring that he doesn’t like it.  Never mind we had it just two weeks ago and he ate well then.  Today, he doesn’t like it!

On the way home from a long day trip exploring some new and cool field trip destination I call to the back of my van… “What was your favorite things today?”  One child declares EVERYTHING!  Another starts listing off the things we happened to miss despite Mommy’s best efforts.  He pouts.

One Thursday morning, after two weeks dotted with nearly nonstop field trips, my six year old asks… “Where are we going today Mommy?”  I exuberantly declare that we are staying HOME for a change, after all we all need rest and down time (especially me).  I get a pout and a foot stomp that staying home is BORING!

All of these instances of complaining are amongst the worse in my book.  They are all about being discontent with the blessings my children have been afforded.  Few things irritate this Mommy more.  My personal knee jerk reaction is to REMOVE all related blessings and let the child feel what it is like to not be blessed at all!  Toss in a some good Mom lectures and we should be good to go, right?  Yeah maybe, but I’d rather shape my children’s character rather than just punish them.

Complaining is a great example of topic to explore during daily Bible study.  For about 2 weeks we spent about ten minutes each and every morning pouring over a related scripture, one per day.  We discussed nearly every word or phrase in each scripture.  I asked them what they thought God meant when he included those words in the Bible.  I brought up times in which they had complained and asked them if they were showing a thankful attitude.  We went over why God would even care about complaining.  We made strategies for teaching ourselves how to curb the complaining.

Philippians 2:14 has become something of a mantra…

14Do everything without grumbling or arguing,

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At the first sign of a complaint I simply had to say… is this grumbling or arguing?  That usually stopped everything right in it’s tracks.

Matthew 12:34 comes up often as well…

34You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.

I can say… “Is your heart feeling ungrateful because your mouth is showing me that it is.”  That statement can often make my children stop and think.  I usually see a near instant attitude adjustment.

Of course… a Mommy has to be careful.  My eight year old is quite savvy.  Just the other day I myself was complaining about having to deal with car maintenance issues.  He said to me… Mommy your complaining makes you sound like you aren’t grateful we have a car!

SLAM! Who’s the teacher here? My children or me!  Be forewarned, tackling issues of the heart with God’s word will grow your own character.  Your children will make sure of it!

Are you turning to the Bible more this week to help you shape your children’s character?  Tell me about it!

Many members of the TOS Review Crew are blogging about a variety of topics this week.  Please stop by their blogs.  They’ve chosen some fabulous topics to write about for you.
Brittney @ Mom’s Heart ~ Relaxed Homeschooling
Lisa @ A Rup Life ~ Our Favorite Books
Melissa @ Life Off the Paved Road ~ Fit From Home
Michelle @ Faith, Family, and Fridays ~ Clearing Out the Clutter
Jennifer @ Chestnut Grove Academy ~ Educational Apps
Jenni @ Conversaving ~ Homeschool Cooperatives
Lisa @ Home to 4 Kiddos ~ Celebrating Lent
Tawnee @ Adventures in Homeschooling ~ Spring Schooling

April Blog Hop

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